Praying For Your Marriage

Do you pray for your marriage?  For your husband?  I try to — really, I do!  But sometimes life just gets in the way.  Or worse, my prayers become very selfish and self focused.  At that point, why bother, right?  About a year ago, I discovered a daily marriage prayer that was sent right to my email inbox every day.  Woohoo!

Reading this prayer each morning, put a totally new perspective on how I sent my husband off to work (and received him home).  Even though I hadn’t read it yet, I knew it was coming.  I knew that I’d lift our marriage up in prayer before the morning was over.  Sometimes the prayer was so specific to what we were going through or had talked about recently that it could be nothing else but a “God thing”.   I have even been known to forward them to him if they really jumped out at me from the page.  God is so good!!!

If you would like to begin praying for your marriage, go over to “Time Warp Wife” and click on her “Daily Marriage Prayers” tab and sign up.  You won’t regret it!!!

Blessings,

Heidi

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A Titus 2 Woman – To Be and Not To Be

“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.  Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”  Titus 2: 3-5 NIV

In my younger years, I desired to be the Proverbs 31 woman (and I still do).  There are numerous studies about it (group and individual).  There are seminars, women’s weekends and conferences, and now there are even blogs and websites.

As I’m getting older, I see the need to teach and train the younger women (just like I was taught and trained).  There are also many books, conferences, blogs and websites about being a Titus 2 woman.  It can be confusing and overwhelming, at times.  Regardless, there is a desire by the “younger women” to learn.  They truly desire to be Godly women, wives and mothers but don’t even know where to start.  Perhaps it starts with one woman having a burden and desire for another.

I’ve been pondering the Titus 2 woman for awhile.  What does it mean?  How do I do this?  What does it look like in my life?  Is it even possible?  Is this role different than being a Proverb 31 woman?  Those are questions not easily answered but certainly worth investigating and thinking about.

I like to take things to their simplest level and then build from there.  I also like lists (I think it’s how my mind works).  After reading and pondering this passage, I realized that it’s divided into 2 main parts — what we are to “be” and what we are to “teach or train”.

To BE

  1. reverent in the way we live
  2. not to be slanderers
  3. not to be addicted to much wine

To TEACH and TRAIN

  1. what is good
  2. to love their husbands and children
  3. self-controlled and pure
  4. busy at home
  5. be kind
  6. subject to their husbands

Finally there is the “why” we do this — “…. so that no one will malign the word of God.” Okay so that’s 3 parts but who’s counting.

Okay, let’s break it down —

BE Reverent in the way we live

According to Merriam-Webster, reverent is defined as “showing a lot of respect; very respectful”.  The Oxford Dictionaries says “feeling or showing deep, solemn respect”. Respect (according to Oxford Dictionaries) is “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements”.

To be reverent, we need to respect and admire people for their abilities, qualities or achievements.  Oh it sounds so easy doesn’t it?!?!

That doesn’t mean that every one’s abilities, qualities or achievements are all the same.  What’s wonderful about people is that God created each of us to be individuals but all created in His image (Genesis 1:27)

We’re also part of the same body (Romans 12:4 & 5 and 1 Corinthians 12: 12-31).  We were created to work together as different parts of that same body; each with our own unique set of strengths and weaknesses.  Let’s respect, encourage and support each other and praise God for those differences.  Imagine how boring the world would be, if we were all the same.

Not to BE slanderers

To slander is to make “false charges or accusations”, “misrepresentations”, or “false oral statement” (Merriam-Webster).  This sounds a little like gossip to me.  I can hear my dad’s voice in my head saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”.

Another word that comes to mind is disrespect.  If we’re supposed to be respectful of others, then it shouldn’t necessarily need to be said that we aren’t to do anything that would disrespect others.  Again, sounds so easy!  So what causes us to be “slanderers” or to be “disrespectful”.

I know what my problem is — my mouth!  James 3:1-12 talks a lot about taming the tongue.  “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness.  Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be.” – James 3:9 & 10 NIV.  OUCH!!!!

Not to BE addicted to much wine

I certainly don’t want to start a debate about whether you can drink wine or not.  Truly I believe that this decision is personal and between you and God.

What this says to me is that we are to keep a clear head.  I can’t “be” or “teach/train” if I don’t have a clear head.  If my mind is not focused on doing God’s will and speaking God’s words, I will not be glorifying Him.

To sum up what the Titus 2 woman is striving to “BE” –

  • We need to respect and admire people for their abilities, qualities or achievements.
  • If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
  • Keep a clear head

Whew!  My mind is on overload right now.  How about yours?  I think that we should ponder and chew on this for awhile and finish up with what we are to “teach and train” at another time.

If you have a story or testimony to share about who was a Titus 2 woman in your life OR how you are being a Titus 2 woman for someone else, please let me know.  I would love to share it!

Blessings,

Heidi

Looking for more resources on being a Titus 2 woman?  Here is a link to a Christian Book Distributors search on the topic.

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Loving by example and what I cooked for Valentine’s Day 2017

First of all, here’s a little distraction.  This was the view from my bedroom this morning.

Can you imagine a rainbow in February?  Not usually in the Inland Northwest!!!  It was breathtaking and a much needed sign of a glorious morning (and not a gray one).

I was reminded over the weekend of all the ways that my husband loves … not just me but others, as well.  He has a tradition of buying our daughters flowers on Valentine’s Day (they are now 28 and 23 yrs old).  It’s not because he thinks that flowers are the important part of the day but because he wants to remind them that they are princesses of the Most High God and they deserve to be treated as such.  Now that we have a granddaughter, he has added her to the tradition too.  So here we were on Sunday morning buying flowers for one of our daughters and granddaughter (because we see them on Sundays and he wouldn’t see them on the actual day) then again on Tuesday so that he could give them to the other daughter.  As I was admiring him for the thought of it all, I got to thinking about all of the ways that he loves our daughters and granddaughter.  Now remember, he’s a practical kinda guy so these might not mean much to some people but to our daughters, they “get it”.  In the last year, he has gone car shopping with each of them; moved the youngest twice and maybe three times; gone out on a cold winter evening to check the car of the older daughter before she drove home because she had been in a “fender bender” and was concerned about the condition of her car; changed tires (snow tires to all-season); fixed computer and wi-fi problems, played chauffeur for the youngest to/from school and work while she was between cars (hence the car shopping), moved a washer and drying to an upstairs apartment AND hooked it up … and the list goes on.  In his world, you love someone by protecting them … taking care of them … doing what you can to make things a little easier and less stressful … just being available to serve.  What a guy!!!  Remember that showing love comes in many different forms.

I usually show love by feeding people…it’s just my “thing”.  My hubby is very easy to feed because he’ll eat anything I put in front of him.  I can probably count on one hand the times he’s said “I don’t care if you ever make this again” (which is code for YUK).  I can’t recall a time when he’s refused to eat anything … just mentions that I don’t have to make it again.  To show my hubby how much I love him, I planned a dinner that I had never made before.  Trying new recipes inspires me!  Since I’m new to this whole blogging thing, I forgot to take picture through the process but did get some of the finished product.  Here it goes!

This year I made Rock Cornish Game Hens with Rice “Stuffing” and Chocolate Red Wine Cake! 

Let’s start with the cake!!!  I’m actually doing this first on purpose because we actually ate dessert first.  Life is short, as they say!  I truly think that I could have finished off the cake and skipped dinner altogether.  It was amazing!!  I got the recipe from Club 31 Women.  Her site is great and huge resource so be sure to check it out.  Here is the link to the recipe.  Now drum roll please ….

Doesn’t that look delicious!!!  The recipe didn’t call for the raspberries on top but I decided to add them at the last minute.  If I had had chocolate syrup in the house, I would have drizzled some on top but alas, I did not.

Onto dinner – Rock Cornish Game Hens with Rice “Stuffing”!  This recipe was SO easy.  All the ingredients are put into a 9 x 13 pan and put in the over.  Viola!  About 2 hours later, you have dinner.

I made homemade bread to go with it which only added to the comfort of the entire meal.  I thought about adding a vegetable side but decided that green vegetables were completely overrated (not really but I didn’t want to feel guilty for not eating my veggies).

Needless to say, we were stuffed!!  I would totally make both of these recipes again.

Hope your Valentine’s Day was filled with love and warmth!

Blessings,

Heidi

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Valentine’s Day — Love It or Hate It?

So with Valentine’s Day coming up, there are always different opinions about it.  Those who have “somebody” love it and those who don’t, well, don’t.

I don’t hate it … but I don’t love it either.  To me it’s a “Hallmark Holiday”.  Showing our love shouldn’t be saved up and only brought to the surface for one day a year.  We should be telling and showing our love every day!  There is this idea that showing our love needs to be these huge romantic gestures but more often than not it’s the little things that speak louder then these grand gestures.  Now don’t get me wrong, I love a romantic gesture as much as the next gal BUT I have also come to appreciate the little things that my husband does every day that say “I love you”.

What I like about Valentine’s Day is that it’s a time of year when I get some really good ideas on ways to be romantic.  There are ideas everywhere you turn!  I make notes of ideas that I can use all year long – date ideas, recipes, etc.  I even start a Christmas list about this time of year.

My husband tends to be more of an introvert so gestures big or small just don’t come naturally to him.  When we were first married, I was complaining about feeling unloved and his comment to me was something along the lines of that fact that he brings home a paycheck so I don’t have to work so of course he loves me.  At the time, all it did was make me angry but I’ve come to appreciate that I have been able to be a stay at home mom because he has a good job that he goes to every day so that I can.  Even now that we’re empty nesters, he knows that I like to be home and has not put pressure on me to work outside the home.  That’s one of the ways that he loves me!!!

Life, for me, is loaded with those little things –

  1. He gets up 30 minutes earlier than I do every morning and makes coffee
  2. On weekends, I get coffee in bed
  3. Makes sure I have wood in the wood bin to literally “keep the home fires burning”
  4. Fills my car with gas when he drives it
  5. Unloads the dishwasher (why do I hate doing that so much?)

And so many more!!!

One of the big gestures that he did was for our 10th anniversary. He wanted to plan the whole thing so I let him.  He told me to pack for warm weather so I did.  I was treated to a 7 day trip to the Big Island, Hawaii!  He rented a cottage on a hobby coffee farm that included fresh coffee and eggs each morning (the chickens just ran around the property).  We went snorkeling, swimming, hiking, driving, and just sat on our private deck and read.  It was fantastic!!!

Shortly after we were married (about the same time as the “feeling unloved” conversation happened), we purchased a book called “1001 Ways To Be Romantic” by Gregory Godek.    We have pretty much worn it out!  It is filled with ideas – big and small.

Here are a few websites that I have used for ideas –

The Dating Divas

Six Sisters Stuff – 14 Days of Love

Mamas Like Me

May you have a blessed and romantic Valentine’s Day and every day!

Heidi

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What is Simple?

According to Merriam-Webster, simple can mean “free from guile, free from vanity, of humble origin or modest position, or free of secondary complications” just to name a few.  When I looked further into this definition, I found a definition used to explain “simple” to kids and/or English language learners – “not hard to understand, not complex or fancy, easy, straightforward”.  All of these definitions are very true but how do you implement “simple” or “simplicity” into your everyday life?  That is the question of the century isn’t it?

We live in a world that is busy, competitive and full of things that possibly distract us from what is really important … important to us and to life.  In a world where we are told to do and/or have certain things to be “happy” or “successful”, it may be difficult to figure out how to simplify.

Now don’t get me wrong.  To live a simple life, doesn’t mean that there is nothing to do or we get to do whatever we want.  There are things that we have/need to do.  As a homemaker, I need to manage my home — clean and make sure my family is fed and has clean clothes, etc.  Does that mean that my house is always immaculately clean?  Uh – nope!  In fact, it’s hardly ever like that.  Is it comfortable and do people always feel welcome?  I certainly hope so!  Does my husband have gourmet meals every night?  Haha – now that’s funny!  Poor man, quite often he has leftovers from a “not so gourmet meal”.  Does he always have the specific clean shirt that he wants for work?  Probably not, but I’ve never seen him go to work with no shirt.

For me, simple means to strive to not have activities in my schedule that are going to “stress me out”.  That doesn’t mean that I don’t have stress.  Life is stressful!  BUT what it does mean is that the majority of the things that fill my day give my family or me joy and/or contentment.  (Hmmmm…perhaps those words are another post)  Even jobs or projects that are stressful, when completed, should allow me to have a sigh of contentment or a sense of accomplishment and not anxiousness.

So take a minute and think about your life, your schedule, your obligations.  What gives you joy?  What puts a smile on your face?  What allows you to sigh with contentment?  Find those things and write them down.  Those things are the beginning of making your life “simple”.

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